Let me rub your back baby

When your man comes home and the kids are all tucked away, treat your man to some tender loving care. Take a warm shower, gel down with some creamy and moist body lotion, you know that special expensive kind. After you are done, run the shower for him. Grab that big new bath towel and as he get out of the shower, dry off every inch of him. Lie him down on those 500 plus thread count sheets, oooo so soft and silky, pour some massage lotion in your hands and gently rub your man down. Start with his feet, his legs, his back, his butt, turn him over and begin to circular massage the lotion on his chest, those masculine arms, his strong hands and his groin. Every now and then give him a gentle kiss on his temple, forehead, nose, eyes; close your eyes and just smell the man. Turn down the lights, slip under the cover and feel his body- oh what a good night it is going to be!

Babygirl or Babyboy it is time to move on!

We all are full aware of what we want in a mate. And if you don't know, you should write down your wants. For real. You should write down the age range; the educational requirements; the parenthood status; the socio-economic level; the intellectual level; the common straits; the physical straits; your faith preference; their ability to socialize in various circles and other wants and desires that you deem important.

Now why should we do this? Well for starters, too many times we engage ourselves in relationships (over and over again) that do not meet or fit our hierarchy of needs. Sure from the beginning it was great, but it suppose to be 'cause it is all new and fresh. But as you progress forward, the real relationship will begin to suffer or succumb to the real issues of life, but what was the resolve? Did you work it out? Or did you just cave in and accepted what the verdict was? Because we don't want to be alone we will continue to remain in a relationship that isn't meant for us.

Baby girl or baby boy, if you are in a relationship and it's not working - you have got to move on. If you are in a relationship and your needs are not being met, it is time to move on. Let's just call it like we see it. That's why it is important to write down what you desire or your needs. Don't continue to waste your precious time in a relationship that is going nowhere, vertically or horizontally. Baby girl or baby boy - Move on.

If you decided to leave for a good cause, don't go back!

What would you do if you found out that your mate of several years had been cheating on you? Would you leave? What if you left and over the next weeks, he or she begged you to stay, would you come back? What if your mate never spend time with you and your family (children), but always have time for other people? Would you leave? What would you do if your mate didn't touch bases with you before weekends to see if you wanted to do something and most of the time (45 weekends out of 52 in a calendar year) you were home alone or attending social or family events without him or her? Would you leave? If you look back at the questions, it is apparent that the two of you really don't have a relationship. It takes two people to be if not equally, somewhat equally involved or engaged in the other person's life to technically call it a relationship. In other words, you are the one in a relation with someone else who does not want to be on the ship!

So ladies and gents, if you decided to leave a relationship for a good cause, don't go back! You've heard the saying that you can't teach an old dog new tricks. Well first, you are not trying to teach anyone anything. Somethings are automatic if that person is truly in love with you. He or she will only be with you and not sleep around with other people. There is no trick here to be learned. Either your mate is an honest and decent person or he/she isn't. Secondly, if a person loves you, he or she will want to spend time with you, your children and mom and dad as well. They would want to share family events together. No tricks here! Who ever heard of a couple only spending 7 out of 52 weekends doing something together or some other low number? Come on - This is not a trick either. The person just doesn't value you and does not want to be with you either. So I will repeat again, if you leave your mate for a "good cause", DON'T GO BACK. 45 weekends is a lot of time to waste on a fraction of a relationship waiting!

Early Morning Love

I don't know about you, but there is nothing better than early in the morning love. You body has rested from the day before. Your mind is clear. You're already in a slumbering and silky mood. You turn over to your mate and begin to rub his chest. He responds. Wow - look out. Or let's say you just got up around 5:00 am to take your morning shower. You enter into the bedroom and see him lying there. It's a cool crisp fall morning, you slip back in the bed and the warmth of his body soften yours. Wow - look out. What about the early in the morning when the moon is in full bloom. You pull back the curtains and the light from the moon pierces the room just enough to give you that low shimmering glow. You snuggle up close to your man, rub his chest and he responds. Wow-look out. Early morning love - Wow - look out!.

Speaking with your EYES!

My high school boyfriend use to stare deep into my eyes for it seem liked hours (but I'm sure it was only minutes). Anyway, he would look at me and say, "your eyes tell me so much about you. I can see all of your joy, hurt, pain or love in your eyes". He use to say that I had deep eyes. When I love someone, I love looking into his eyes. His eyes would say to me, I Love You, I Hear You, I Need You, and most importantly I Want You. Sometimes just the stare or look can communicate so much than words. Have you ever kissed your man (or woman) and looked into his eyes. When you're locked in a passionate kiss and open your eyes to connect with his (or hers), you are surrendering your whole being to that person. So be careful to whom you surrender.

"Love Me Tender"

I had the opportunity to experience "love me tender". Wow, it was so tantilizing, so amazing, so passionate, so needed, and so so good. "Love me tender" is like holding a baby to you chest. You know when you just careess the baby and hold it ever so close to you and by doing so you feel the love radiating. "Love Me Tender" is when you take your lover's cheeks in your hands and you stare into his or her eyes and place a slow and intimate kiss on their lips. Not a french kiss, but a slow I can taste your lips kiss.

"Love Me Tender" is when you make eye contact as your lover's breath is on your face and you feel each and every touch like the very first time all over again. "Love Me Tender" is an act of unselfish touching to please the other, unselfish kissing to taste the other and unselfish desire to be near and close to your mate. "Love Me Tender" is when you are held close to his chest and his heart beats are like music to your soul, the warmth of his body softens your skin as you both slip into a slumber of togetherness.

Lonely Hearts

Ladies, do you find yourself alone on the weekends, hoping or wishing to be with him during the holidays, or if it is your birthday, did he call, come by or even bother to take you out? If you answered yes to any of these questions or NO to the last question, a rude awakening awaits you. If Your Man Loves You - you wouldn't be alone on the weekends, weeknights; you wouldn't have been without him on holidays, and of course you should have shared your special day with him. I know it hurts, but when a person loves you, he will want to be with you, call you, share moments with you and want to create those memories that we all love to talk about among friends. It is time for you to face the reality of where you are in the relationship - IT IS NOT A RELATIONSHIP - RELATIONSHIP TAKES TWO. So my dear women, girls, sisters or divas - pack you bag and move on and allow yourself to meet someone new who want to be that special somebody in your life.

Consider Yourself Blessed Girl!

If your man calls you everyday, consider yourself blessed girl, some of us only hear from him when he wants something, be it sex or a favor. If you man send you flowers on special days or just because, consider yourself blessed girl 'cause some of us never get flowers no matter how good it was last night or no matter what we did for him and his family. If your man likes to touch you or run his fingers through your hair, consider yourself blessed girl ' cause some of us don't know what it is to be tenderly touch. If your man say things to you like, "you're cute, you're beautiful, or I like the way you look, consider yousrself blessed girl ' cause some of us never get a compliment even when we have worked hard all day to get that "look".

If your man likes to hold your hand, consider yourself blessed girl ' cause some of us wish he would just hold our hand when we are walking, at the movies, in the mall, when we are dining or just hanging out. Some of us wish he would open the door for us; wait on us before he enters the building, pull our chair out for us when we sit, walk by our side and not a couple of feet in front of us.

If you man is passionate, affectionate, romantic at times, concern, eager to see you and always eager to talk to you, or if he does things to give you the assurance of his love for you, girl you are truly blessed - so relax enjoy what you got and take care of what you got. Whatever you do, don't take him for granted - he is special and you should cherish his specialness.

When is Enough is Enough?

So you're through with him/her! You're tired of the drama, the baggage, the junk and the same old same ole. Sure he said that this time it would be different. Of course she said that she was sorry. Only weeks later and in some cases days, you find yourself in the same situation. Still in a piece of a relatioship that isn't moving and going nowhere. You tried to be cheerful. You tried not to complain. You tried to keep the fire burning. You tried to talk it out. That's the dag problem, YOU TRIED! WHAT ABOUT THE OTHER PERSON - DID HE OR SHE TRY - HELL NO - They only kept on receiving what you had to give and gave you nothing in return.

Well, I say enough is enough. Sooner, not later, you've got to break the never ending cycle of just hanging on by a thread- feellings hurt, lonely and alone, troubled and not cared about. Honey- listen to me - enough is enough. You've done all you can do. You've said all you can say. You've been the good girl or man. You've put up with and put up with. You deserve better. Give yourself a break. Give your heart some relief. Give your emotions a rest. Enough is enough - don't take anymore of their mess. LET IT GO - LET HIM OR HER GO -YOU'RE HOLDING ON TO NOTHING !